I believe that couples are in a unique position for growth and healing with the help of their partner. Over the years I have found that people who come for individual therapy are frequently focused on the problems in their couple relationship. In these instances, I have found that working on the relationship together in couples therapy is more effective, efficient and economical than individual therapy alone.

Couples Therapy is of special interest, particularly working with high conflict, neurotypical/neurodivergent dynamics, axis 2 (personality disorder) couples, and co-parenting former-partners. My approach is both supportive and challenging, non-pathologizing, and based on concepts from attachment theory and neuroscience, which confirm that we need the support of our partner in order to work through fundamental primary core issues.

I believe that partners are in the position to ensure that the other is understood, valued and protected. A loving relationship with a partner can improve our happiness, our health, and it can provide us the strength, courage and confidence to go out into the world to do the things we would not do on our own. But that same relationship can easily become disappointing, frustrating and painful. I see impasses and breakdowns in long-term relationships as a normal non-pathological process. Couples often lose their way and find themselves stuck in a cycle of fighting, withdrawing, or shutting down, without understanding the primitive biological or personally historical material that colors our experience and drives our behavior. When these dysregulating cycles continue to repeat, the loving connection between couples begins to weaken, and our partner starts to seem more like an enemy than someone deeply loved.

Insecure attachments and a hostile or distant relational system can keep a couple from developing good regulational behavior. Misattunements and misappraisals can lead to deep misunderstanding, which cause injury and make it challenging for couples to learn and execute the skills necessary to help each other with fundamental individual and relational issues. I help couples to move away from blaming the other, or avoiding conflict, to identify how each partner contributes to the breakdown and disconnect in the relationship. This approach is active and experiential. Instead of talking about events, we try to enact them and make corrections in real time. This can lead to an exploration of underlying long-term individual issues, as well as a better understanding of the unhealthy dynamic the couple has created together. We will work through these issues in session and discover new effective ways to deal with conflict, and to better repair; building a new foundation for learning and growth, and fostering security, sanity, intimacy, and true mutuality in the relationship.

Regardless of your past, or your parents, or the challenging person you picked, with the right kind of work and the right kind of effort, you will feel more connected and secure, your stress will decrease, and you and your partner will thrive.

My Approach

My approach is rooted in PACT (Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy), which brings together developmental neuroscience, attachment theory, and nervous system regulation. With this approach I will pay close attention not only to the stories partners carry, but also to the emotional and physiological dynamics that shape how you respond to one another.

How PACT helps

• Attachment Awareness – Understand your own and your partner’s attachment styles, and how these patterns shape interactions and emotional responses.

• Neuroscience of Connection – Learn how your brains and nervous systems respond to stress and threat, so automatic reactions can be seen as physiological rather than personal.

• Arousal & Co-Regulation – Practice calming and supporting each other’s nervous systems in real time, helping you stay present and responsive during conflict.

What to Expect in Sessions

This work is is fast-paced and experiential. Couples don’t just talk about problems — you actively engage with each other, often practicing new ways of relating in the moment. Sessions are immersive and focused, creating opportunities for safety and repair right inside the room. Many couples find this approach helps them shift patterns and strengthen connection more effectively than traditional talk therapy.

Conscious Uncoupling & Co-Parenting Work

For couples who are pre- or post-separation/divorce, therapy can offer support in navigating the shift from romantic partners to co-parents (or business partners, friends, etc.) Particularly potent when children are involved, it can be essential to clarify expectations, set healthy boundaries, and create reliable communication practices. Together we can acknowledge and process the ending of the romantic bond while building a respectful and cooperative partnership.

In line with PACT‘s emphasis on secure functioning, the aim is not to rekindle romance, but to establish mutual respect, a shared vision and direction, and shared responsibility. This helps reduce conflict, ease daily interactions, and provide children with a lived example of stability and collaboration—even in the midst of family change. This type of loving environment will open up space for romance and deepened connection.

Interested in booking or learning more? Contact me to set up a complimentary initial consultation.